Everyone feels angry sometimes.
Anger is a normal, healthy emotion just like happiness and sadness… it’s a normal reaction when things go wrong or when life feels unfair. Anger management helps reduce the impact this emotion has on family and friends.
Children and young people can show their anger in many different ways. Here are just a few:
- facial expressions – red faced, scowling, angry expression, pulling faces, sticking their tongue out etc.
- verbal outbursts – shouting and/or screaming.
- body language – tense muscles, clenched fists, hunched shoulders, leaning forward etc.
- tantrums – when they don’t get their own way or are feeling frustrated.
- hitting out – punching, kicking, shoving etc
- pushing boundariess e.g. refusing to respect parent/school rules.
- destroying objects.
- defiance e.g. doing the oposite to what they have been asked.
Experiencing some angry feelings is normal for all ages, and in doing so we often learn ways of dealing with how we feel so we can move on and put those angry feelings behind us. But, sometimes anger can be hard to deal with and have many unpleasant repercussions on family life.
The good news is helping children and young people to manage their feelings of anger in a healthy way has many benefits:
- reduces the stress your child and family are experiencing.
- helps them to understand the nature of their angry feelings
- introduces coping strategies for other emotions e.g. rejection, jealousy etc.
- gives them ideas of how to problem solve.
I can help your child to understand and manage their feelings by:
- Helping them to recognise their physical reactions/body sensations e.g. feeling hot, racing heart, tense shoulders, clenched fists/jaw, scowling, angry thoughts etc.
- Provide a safe, caring environment which encourages them to verbalise how they feel and explore why they are feeling this way.
- Assist them to identify triggers – what situations lead them to feeling angry?
- Encourage them to explore any unhelpful thoughts like ‘it’s not fair’ and work to replace them with more helpful ones e.g. ‘I’m doing ok’.
- Explore strategies which they can use to help take more control of their anger.
- Support them to self-evaluate and provide the positive feedback they need to assist them in their progression.